When we talk about understanding, surely it takes place only when the mind listens completely —the mind being your heart, your nerves, your ears—when you give your whole attention to it. Jiddu Krishnamurti
Have you recently sat with the one you love, held their hand, looked them in the eyes and asked, “Do I understand you enough? Is there anything you’d like me to understand more? Is there a way you would like me to love you better?” You must sincerely and continuously delve into the soul of your beloved, for people grow and evolve and the person you loved yesterday is not quite the same today. There have been challenges and blessings on their path that added to their complexity. Just sharing space and successfully maintaining the routine aren’t what build intimacy. How do you know how their dreams have morphed, what wounds have been opened or hurts inflicted, if you don’t check in with them? What are their desires of this day rather than of days past? Are you loving someone from the past who lives in the same body?
True love requires understanding. If you are not willing to sit with the mystery to explore the realms beyond the surface you’ll never discover the unspoken realms from the soul of your loved one. It takes time to communicate and understand. It can be uncomfortable and exciting, revealing and impactful. But how can you fully love if you don’t know the truth, and how can you be loved if you aren’t truly known? With understanding, true love will surely grow.
Spiritual Contemplation: Create a safe environment where you won’t be interrupted and when your heart can hear without judgment or defense, then take the hand of your loved one and ask if there is anything you need to know to love them better. Seek to understand
Affirmation: I allow myself to be vulnerable to love by seeking to understand in a deeper way!