Soften your eyes when you look at someone or read something that causes you to react. As you look with soft eyes, your heart also softens. An opening occurs for inquiry and curiosity when your eyes are soft and your heart is open. It is also easier to see someone’s pain or imagine where they might be coming from. In this way connection becomes possible, speaking becomes more patient and listening may occur. Any time you feel defensive or attacked try softening your eyes and see how much of the Presence you can see. Seeing it may even call it forth. You may even become a blessing for another rather than an adversary.